Rejection is a gift!

As sales professionals, we are confronted with rejection in one form or another almost every day. Be it in a conversation with the customer who rejects the offer made, the colleague who lets you down in the decisive phase of the project, or the boss who does not support your strategy and imposes his or her idea on you and the team.

Disappointment, frustration, even resignation can be the consequence. In the rarest of cases, however, do we perceive rejection as a gift. And here is a great example that this is the best of all strategies to become even more successful in sales! 

Since childhood, Jia Jiang, an author and young entrepreneur from China, experienced the serious impact that rejection had on his personal and professional development. And when he realised that his deep-seated fear of rejection was preventing him from living his life the way he wanted to, he decided to face his deepest fears. He deliberately looked for rejection for 100 days. For his experiment, he chose a task for himself every day that would almost always result in rejection. Be it asking for a free burger refill at his local fast-food restaurant or offering to plant flowers in a stranger’s garden.  

 At the end of his experiment, Jia Jiang had learned 5 lessons from the 100 days of rejection.  

  1. Asking “why” can often turn a “no” into a “yes”. Very often, rejection is not on a personal level. Rather, rejection often results from a lack of understanding of our client’s needs. Let’s learn more about our client’s wants and needs and ask “why”.
  2. Use empathy to break down barriers The ” why” and the knowledge of the customer’s needs are closely related to the “how” and the question of “how does our counterpart think”. As soon as we understand how our customer feels and thinks, we can react appropriately and tailor our response to the respective situation. Building trust is often the key to our success.
  3. Persistence is rewarded We should not give up too quickly after an initial “no”. Maybe the timing is just not right. There may be numerous reasons why we may experience rejection in this situation. Let’s stay on the ball, stay in touch and let’s always discreetly, but respectfully step on our client’s toes.
  4. Let’s master the right way to deal with rejection Once we realise that we are actually defined by our reaction to rejection and not by the rejection itself, we can unlock unimagined potential within ourselves. Let’s welcome rejection with open arms and build on it with purpose and determination.
  5. Rejection as a gift Once we can see rejection as a necessary and important part of our success and perceive it as a gift and not a dead end, only then can we truly be successful. 

Want to know more? Check out this TED Talk  

Susannah Mathieson

Susie (MBA), is an experienced Sales Trainer and Coach with more than 20 years in selling and sales leadership roles. She is passionate about helping sales people reach their sales potential by empowering them to think for themselves and giving them the tools they need to be successful. She decided to use her expertise and experience to set up the small stuff in March 2019. Her mission is to support sales teams and companies achieve their goals and grow their income. As a trainer and coach with a focus on sales training, employee motivation and team building, she is responsible for the development and execution of sales training and the implementation of employee development & coaching plans. Susie has excellent powers of observation, combined with a patient, yet clear coaching style which brings out the best in individuals and groups. She believes in empowering sales teams to understand, adjust and then execute improvements for success!

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